Dr. Hallowell and his wife Sue discuss life, love, relationships, and marriage both inside and outside the realm of “different” according to pop culture, and contrasting that to the rapidly changing landscape and public perception when it comes to what actually is “different” within the boundaries of love, relationships, sexuality, and marriage.

Show Notes

Podcast: Dr. Hallowell’s Wonderful World of Different

Episode: Sue Hallowell

Welcome to Dr. Hallowell’s Wonderful World of Different, a podcast hosted by Dr. Ned Hallowell! By interviewing a wide range of guests from various backgrounds, we will uncover and celebrate the different ways people have of approaching life, solving problems and having fun. Together, we will break down the notion of normal and abnormal, and instead tap into the talents everyone has.

Today’s Ned is joined by his favorite guest, his wife, Sue Hallowell. Sue is a therapist, wife, and mother to three children. Their conversation begins with a discussion on the information we bring into relationships and the expectations we have of marriage from family, media, and culture. Sue explains that the imprint of these ideals can make it difficult to remember your goals, and that they can be achieved in many ways that may look different. One of the things that can cause difficulty is when you assume your partner views that world and processes it the same way you do.

Ned and Sue agree that in therapeutic scenarios, there is almost never a good guy or a bad guy. Instead, they try to help people to understand the impact of your behaviour beyond your intentions. You have to decide what you can and cannot tolerate and choose to let the rest go. Sue stresses that you can’t care about everything, there are things about your partner that you are going to have to accept you cannot change. Her best pieces of advice to a good marriage are to have a determination to be happy in your marriage; editing how much you share with your partner; and remembering you’re the only person in the relationship you can change.

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